tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5439971908848990993.post1051044987518042190..comments2023-12-12T20:38:25.220+00:00Comments on Homeschool on the Croft: Illness and Death Beautiful? Homeschool on the Crofthttp://www.blogger.com/profile/03400742529025230433noreply@blogger.comBlogger11125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5439971908848990993.post-62657992806738898722018-10-04T11:47:56.064+01:002018-10-04T11:47:56.064+01:00Jan, I'm browsing through my blog and re-readi...Jan, I'm browsing through my blog and re-reading some comments. When I read your analogy to childbirth, I inwardly exclaimed a Yes! 'The good memories become clearer than the bad'. SO true! I'm so glad I did some browsing this morning. That has done me much good xx<br />Homeschool on the Crofthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03400742529025230433noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5439971908848990993.post-42003614292491467072017-08-01T10:51:30.082+01:002017-08-01T10:51:30.082+01:00You say, "it's hard to describe".......You say, "it's hard to describe".... Yes! Everything I talk about seems to end with, 'och, it's hard to describe....that's not what I mean exactly'. I guess words are just inadequate. How is your mum doing? For us, it's only been 3 weeks, and the past week and a half has been the worst, by far, for dad. As we've heard so many say over the years....it's as though you get carried through the first week or two, then reality hits hard. That's where dad is right now :'( . But as you say, the agonising pain will subside. Our God is the great Healer of broken hearts, and the Comforter of those who mourn. I'm so sorry that your dad passed on Christmas day, and that haooyday will always be tinged with that bit of sadness. <br />Anne xHomeschool on the Crofthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03400742529025230433noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5439971908848990993.post-82080405428293676862017-07-28T04:18:31.353+01:002017-07-28T04:18:31.353+01:00Anne, Thank you for your response. My folks marke...Anne, Thank you for your response. My folks marked their 60th anniversary in October before Dad passed. Half a world away and yet we are connected by similar circumstances and, of course, a common faith. <br />Your "ranching in Nebraska" comment made me smile because I've always been enamored by your part of the world. Part of my ancestry is Scottish. (MacGregor - probably why we're in America, right?) :) We are blessed to be able to live this lifestyle and try to be good stewards of the land and livestock.<br />A stockman from Blairgowrie visited us for 2 weeks a couple of years ago. He was touring ranches in the west for several months. A fine young man who fit right in here and we enjoyed getting to know him. <br />I don't know how your journey has gone, but I've found with Dad that death was very much like childbirth, the pain seemed unbearable at the time, but the Lord has a way of making the memory of it quickly fade. (I don't know if I'm wording that correctly. It's hard to describe.) Maybe it isn't so much we forget, but that the shock of it isn't as prevalent, and the good memories become clearer than the bad. <br />I'm not a blogger or on FaceBook, but I would gladly exchange contact information with you. (Not sure how to do that and keep it private). <br />JanAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5439971908848990993.post-90597939380312097502017-07-26T21:14:42.931+01:002017-07-26T21:14:42.931+01:00Thank you so much, Jan. Loved reading your comment...Thank you so much, Jan. Loved reading your comment and feel such sadness for your situation too. I have better understood that although those we lose who are in Christ are safe, and are where there is no more pain and no more sin, yet the grief of losing a loved one is so, so sore. My dad is honestly breaking my heart. Losing his wife of 56 years is agony beyond words for him. I ache for him....<br />"He unsaddled for the last time on October 28th....". Oh Jan, this is really painful to read. And we have to keep coming back to God's Word, which gives us a reality check. After all, we are all just passing through. Life is short, even if we get a 'long' life. Eternity is forever. And, after all, Christ needs to bring His own Home ...<br />Do you blog? Ranching in Nebraska .... sounds like balm to a person's mind<br />Thank you for the lovely comment<br />Anne xHomeschool on the Crofthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03400742529025230433noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5439971908848990993.post-4577701163853194132017-07-25T14:28:15.070+01:002017-07-25T14:28:15.070+01:00Anne, I've enjoyed reading many of your posts ...Anne, I've enjoyed reading many of your posts through the years, getting a peek into your Scottish lifestyle and rejoicing in your deep faith (which I share). I was saddened to read of your mom's passing. This post resonated with me because we just went through a similar home-going with my dad on Christmas Day 2016. <br />Dad was a lifelong rancher in southwest Nebraska. In November 2015, he was diagnosed with Stage 4 pancreatic cancer that had metastasized to the liver (terminal) and given 3 months to live. He chose no treatment, opting to live whatever time was left as best he could. He unsaddled for the last time on October 28th after a 6 mile cattle drive. His earthly journey ended on Christmas morning. We were blessed to be able to care for him at home to the end. <br />I can very much relate to your experience and your emotions. Even though Dad knew where he was going, it was a difficult end physically for him those last 2 days. Through this experience, I can better understand why death is spoken of as the enemy (1 Cor. 15:26). How grateful I am that Jesus has conquered it. <br />Like you, I've learned much through this journey. May the Lord continue to sustain you through your time of grief. <br />Jan Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5439971908848990993.post-27275000821677762882017-07-18T20:48:29.437+01:002017-07-18T20:48:29.437+01:00Thank you, Martha. He is such a kind and loving Fa...Thank you, Martha. He is such a kind and loving Father. We were privileged to be able to care for Mum for these past months. Precious xHomeschool on the Crofthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03400742529025230433noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5439971908848990993.post-14735246336067286742017-07-18T20:47:33.648+01:002017-07-18T20:47:33.648+01:00Thank you, Susan. God created us to live, and deat...Thank you, Susan. God created us to live, and death is just not what He created. So much has been spoiled ....but ....one day, ALL will be renewed!<br />A xHomeschool on the Crofthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03400742529025230433noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5439971908848990993.post-36223313897085167442017-07-18T20:46:14.295+01:002017-07-18T20:46:14.295+01:00Thank you, Deanna.... 'He knows our frame, He ...Thank you, Deanna.... 'He knows our frame, He remembers we are dust'.... how unspeakably precious these words are.<br />Thank you xHomeschool on the Crofthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03400742529025230433noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5439971908848990993.post-62351315673053032942017-07-17T23:22:23.265+01:002017-07-17T23:22:23.265+01:00Thank you Anne for sharing such a personal account...Thank you Anne for sharing such a personal account of how you all dealt with your mum's last days. Praying the Lord will uphold you in the days to come as He certainly did through the days gone past x Martha Marthanoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5439971908848990993.post-84882123564504841862017-07-17T15:35:14.342+01:002017-07-17T15:35:14.342+01:00This is what is real. It isn't pretty. I think...This is what is real. It isn't pretty. I think the "pretty" pictures some paint of their loved ones passing away isn't as common as we are lead to believe. The few times I have come face to face with death it wasn't pretty or sweet. There was the earthly suffering and you said it well - our minds are completely taken up with the moment, the "what will they miss", our world stops during that time. Yes, we may have the comfort of them being face to face with Jesus, no suffering and perfect bodies, but we are human. We still see the sin and horrors of every day and think of what they are missing. Your post puts it wisely. Thank you for sharing your reality with us. I pray you and your family keep finding comfort in God!Susan Phttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00885508869904521374noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5439971908848990993.post-63212277712309345282017-07-17T13:27:42.236+01:002017-07-17T13:27:42.236+01:00Thank you Anne, for your honesty. I believe there...Thank you Anne, for your honesty. I believe there is no 'right' way for someone to deal with terminal illness and death. Your mother's salvation was secure, but as a human being, she was suffering the effects of the Fall. I love the scripture that says, "For He knows our frame, He remembers that we are dust." Ps 103:14 God is not disappointed with how your mum dealt with her illness.<br /><br />You mum is no longer sad. She is fully, radiantly one of the great cloud of witnesses cheering you all on as you run your race here on earth. She will know of her great grand baby, marriages etc...<br /><br />Your honesty will help others dealing with this same situation. Deanna Rabe - Creekside Cottage Bloghttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16133684514103206137noreply@blogger.com